Transition isn’t pretty, but stagnation is hideous.
~ Nikki Rowe
So now here I am with no responsibilities to others and only to myself.As I look for a home I feel suspened from ordinary life and have permission to be and explore.
Light precedes every transition. Whether at the end of a tunnel, through a crack in the door or the flash of an idea, it is always there, heralding a new beginning.
It sounds like fun doesnt it? Except that Im looking to take on a new responsibility in finding my home in this new city.
So there I was one day this week entering a pharmacy to look for Magnesium tablets which I take before bed, when a woman said “I love your hat” I was fairly exhausted from an overactive mind which was focussed on the search and smiled. I like this city because its people are without pretence, no hiding behind the social mask which is de rigeur elsewhere.
We fell into conversation and just like that she offered to show me around different areas of the city.
I always check in with my intuition first but it felt right and took up her offer . Afterwards we drove back to her home where I met her Labradoodle puppy and over a coffee started to share aspects of our lives.
“Change is situational. Transition, on the other hand, is psychological. It is not those events, but rather the inner reorientation or self-redefinition that you have to go through in order to incorporate any of those changes into your life. Without a transition, a change is just a rearrangement of the furniture. Unless transition happens, the change won’t work, because it doesn’t take. ”
When I meet new people I always ask the Universe what the purpose of the meeting is-and an answer always emerges. To teach, to learn, to challenge, to understand….any number of reasons.
But as my new friend started to share her story, I discovered a distinct resonance with key issues of my childhood. Behaviours, patterns, dysfunctional parents, emotional and financial abuse…it was all there in the mirrors we held up to each other.
But also our strengths and deep healing abilities. It was an amazing gift to meet this lovely woman. Later in the week we had dinner together and continued to share. We were the last people out of the restaurant that evening.
“Life is pleasant. Death is peaceful. It’s the transition that’s troublesome.”
My new friend called me “brave” for moving to a new city without knowing anyone and yes that’s ttue but I am following an inner call to change and meeting my first new friend in this city is for me, confirmation that I am on the right path.
When you meet anyone, treat the event as a holy encounter. It’s through others that we either find or love our self. For you see, nothing is accomplished without others. When you eliminate the concept of separation from your thoughts and your behavior, you begin to feel your connection to everything and everyone.